Is not drinking alcohol always a deal breaker when dating women?

Hey everyone I have gone on several dates with women my age 20 in the past couple of months. On most occasions the dates have gone well until the ladies find out that I do not drink alcohol. This always seems to be the deal breaker. I do not drink because of a bad family history of alcohol and I do not wan to go near the stuff. Is this a deal breaker with 99% of girls? Why or why not? Thanks

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Maybe you need to start looking at what your hanging out with. Think about it like this. Misery loves company. Drunks like other drunks. People like that are losers because they think that the only way they can have fun is with a few beers in there belly's. Besides, Why would you want to ociate yourself with those types to start with? Their losers. Of course they do not think they are right now. But wait till they start waking up next to some guy they do not remember, much less his name, that they been screwing all night and do not remember if they used a or not. Or even worse get pregnant and then try to blame it on some er You maybe Simply put your hanging out with and picking the wrong girls to date. You and only you can fix that. Their are just as many girls that do not drink. The problem is you will not find those type girls going to clubs
not at all
Oddly enough, because of your family history of alcoholism you will be attracted to alcoholics. it sounds like this is what is happening. not drinking would only be a deal breaker with someone who is looking for a drinking buddy. Alanon is the 12 - step program for those of us who want to overcome the effects of having lived with alcoholism in our families. there are local groups in your area & also info on the internet
If a girl is too stupid to realize that you do not want to become an alcoholic, then she is not somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with
No you should be ok. But alot of people drink you prob. know that tho. you need to find someone that is nice and doesn't drink. im against drinking also so im with you on that one
Heck, NO! If they would get past their own shock and realize why you are being responsible and respectful to the people around you, they should be proud to call you their date. However, they might think you will judge them for drinking. This is a tough age for someone who doesn't want to drink, because you will be bombarded with social drinking at every turn. You should be honest, but if you do not feel ready to divulge your family history so soon, just tell them you do not like the taste
I do not think it would be. For women looking for a serious relationship, it's good because they know they will not get an alcoholic. On the other hand, if they do drink, I think they'd be happy because the have a DD. It's never been a problem here. It must be where you're from
If a girl is not alright with you not drinking then she is not worth your time. For one if you do not drink you do not want someone around you constantly drinking and two if she can not respect the fact that you are living a good lifestyle. then again she is not worth your time. That is one thing that attracted me to my fiance so much was b / c he did not have to have a beer or 2 with dinner every night or go out and get plastered with his friends! Keep looking, you will find someone who respects you for you! Also, go you, from a female prospective it is nice to see that there are some guys out there you do not need to drink to have a good time!
Oh lord - women do LOVE the drunks. Not sure why. But stay away from the booze anyway - it's not worth it. There are women with some brains out there somewhere. I never drank - just was not interested - it tastes like dog sh*t. And consequently I never had too many friends. Seemed like almost everybody I knew was a drunk - either a professional drunk or a amateur drunk. But there's a few girls who do not need a drunk - you will find them after a while
Wow, I am a 20 - year - old woman and I do not drink for the same reason! I did not think there was anyone out there like me, hah. I agree with the first answerer : "If a girl is too stupid to realize. "
No that is definitely not a deal breaker. I have no problem with guys who choose to drink or not drink unless they choose to drink until they are sick. I have more fun when I go out with guys who do not drink because I do not drink myself. It's very responsible of you to avoid alcohol because of a bad family history
Well, it could mean that the girls are more the party type. And seeing as your not the party type, and by party type i mean drink, loosen up, and have fun they might lose interest. Drinking with a partner opens up the possibility that both people let down their guard and just have fun, and maybe reach other levels. It also is a way to socially meet friends and have fun outside of the relationship. I think your just finding the wrong girls. There are plenty of girls who do not drink and many that drink but will not mind if you dont. They also might be self concious of how they act when drunk around someone who is sober
NO its not. I am always impressed when a guy says he is not into that stuff. Its shows character and strength. There can be two reason why some time you might feel its a deal breaker. 1. The girl might feel insecure, inferior or judged because she drinks. There is definitely girls into guys not drinking but maybe on the first date or meeting order your drink before hand, make sure its a not alarming color, and just try not to talk about it or get attention to it. And offer to get her drink casually, without being biased. After few meetings if it comes up you can tell her you dnt drink. 2. Secondly, you might be coming on too strong about it. Obviously I have no idea, but make sure you are not ridiculing and making other feel bad for drinking. And can still fit in with people who drink a little bit. Because what girl / guy will want to date a someone who looks down on their friends and can not graciously fit in. But obviously you dnt have to tolerate wasted ppl and their crap Most probably it they might feel awkward, and dnt want to offend you because they drink. So dnt bring it up and make it the "only" thing that defines you. Also even if the girl drinks and she is into you there is a 95% chance she is stop just out of respect for you. Mark my world on that. I hope that helps and I promise alot of girls commend that. Good Luck
just have A beer. so she knows your a man
No, the girl you're with should respect your choice to not drink. I'd say it's a good thing that you do not drink personally. You can have fun with out alcohol, which is wonderful to hear
I am not sure what kind of girls would do that. Just do not make a big deal out of it if they say anything. Just tell them something like, "I really do not want to miss a word you say, so I am sticking to coke". Something witty should break it, if not, just do not make an issue or stay on the topic long. Also, ask for something upscale, a tonic water, bubbling water, Red Bull, cranberry juice. something found in bars but without having to say "no alcohal". No cokes, sweet tea, non alcoholic beer or anything that screams "I refuse to take part in your alcohal binge devil". I think these cl y drinks will blow right by them in questioning does it have alcohal in it
if she likes she will understand haha
Keep looking and you will find a woman who feels the same way. She will probably be thrilled to find you
well as some one who like to drinks my self i will tell you no it is not a deal breaker. my bf will drink until he can not stand up and does so each and every night, my Guess is they just have not been around that type of man to be able to like a non drinker. the only deal breaker is if he is a jealous idiot or wants to control what i do, if i want a drink i will drink it the same goes for him if he wants one go for it if he do not than so be it, thing is some people can not handle there drinking. i am quessing that it what your talking about when you say bad family history
Hell no, they are just stupid and a waste of your time man. I am 22 years old and I can tell you the girls I dated that were all into partying and drinking all the time never last and just end up in other guys. Just find a good home girl, which s cause they are hard to find. They never go out to bars or anything like that. You got to just get lucky and meet one through a friend. But, your too young to be worrying about anything permanent. Just find some girls to hook up with who do not care if you drink or not there are plenty out there just keep looking
definitely not! thats a deal maker in my book
It should not make any difference. I would think girls would respect a guy who does not drink the older you get but im not really sure
I do not think its a deal breaker. unless you a cop a "holier than thou" at ude about it if they like to drink. My BF doesnt drink much he has the occasional scotch, but I like to drink. he doesnt mind. when I feel like having a few beers, I do. Never been a real big deal to us
it just depends on the girl. maybe if you tell them the history the will understand. unless they are complete party animals. A lot of girls find it a plus when men do not drink. But other girls think its lame. it just depends on the girl
They might think it's weird but a lot of girls think it's sweet because 1. it's illegal 2. it's unnecessary and sorta stupid or 3. one less reason you will not have a beer belly
Hi Ryan. I am 20 years old myself. ItÂ´s great to know that there are actually guys out there who donÂ´t need to drink to have a good time. Everytime I go out with my friends, everyone drinks and starts acting crazy. Well IÂ´m usually the only one that doesnÂ´t drink, even though my friends try to talk me into it. I stand my ground. You donÂ´t need to drink to impress a girl, trust me. I actually admire that in a guy. Plus, you have a very strong reason for not drinking: your family! Maybe you havenÂ´t been dating the right women, obviously. Trust me, there is someone out there who doesnÂ´t require you having to drink. Keep looking. And good luck, IÂ´m proud of you!

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